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Haha .. Will Rogers? You honor me E-Bob .. the kids are truly wonderful.
Here's another local idea / custom? Wonder how widespread it may be?
Posted by OkNeedleworker 9 hours ago. The following is a direct quote:
Filipino Siblings toxic culture, or just Filipino Family lang talaga?
This may come as a whiny post, but bear with me the frustration of one to vent this out and wanting some 2 cents from strangers. So here it goes...
In a Filipino household, it's normal to live with your parents even when your past the age of 18 or any other reasons. But maybe I expected too much of a harmonious living one, of at least everyone in the house has a responsibility to keep the house clean and healthy for humans to live, because that's what I was taught back in kindergarten up until Ethics is concerned.
Then why is there some sort of patriarchy or misogyny in dis house?
Women are expected to learn house chores quicker than bebebois? hoi! I'm literally capable of fixing fences atp
My mother does not hide her biased treatment when it comes to me and my older brother. I swear she would be the one to clean my brother's cats' shit everywhere in the house, wash all his laundry (including underwears), prepare food, iron clothes, and almost never let him do household chores.
To think that this guy is already 23 years old, has no physical disability that inconveniences his daily life, and is performing very well in college, it pisses me off that I am the only one expected to perform my role as a "filipino daughter" and so barely pass my college loads because I have things to do at home before I can do my homeworks.
I can't stay here any longer, I might need to find my own place before I can release my long-suppressed anger to this family in a harmful way.
This would not be as painful to me if only I have the freedom to get a job at an earlier age and not get shamed for quitting school. In that case I can earn my own money and leave house.
Everyday I see my brother, it feels like I want to keel myself or disappear so I don't have to feel so frustrated about where I am now. I've noticed this toxic pattern of my family ever since I was 13/14, now I am 20.
All those years of asking him to at least mop, wash the dishes, his clothes, cook rice, and pick up his pet's mess: it would always consist of arguments, shouting, school work excuses, and many other things. I grew tired of dealing with this so I sometimes do the chores on my own or leave it as long as it doesn't block the my small peaceful place.
Earlier today, i was woken up to clean the floor and cook food for breakfast by my mom. My brother then came out of his room after a few hours and asked if the food is ready. As expected, my mom prepped the table while I was still annoyed because I'll be the one to wash the dishes.
Another thing I get so annoyed here is that they all are getting used to the putrid smell of cat's liquidy shit. It sometimes stick to my hanged clothes if I don't get it in time. His 3 cats are feral, like they all screech and scratch my dog whenever it wants to get inside the sala, walk over cooking pans, utensils, folded clothes on the couch, and no one NO ONE BATS AN EYE except for me and the people who would once visit our house.
Almost everything is in his favor, and I am left to understand their (parents and sibling) behaviors. I mean I did chose a college course to deal with my own personality and somehow realized that some of my problems are rooted to how I was raised. It ain't that bad to blame them for what I am right now. lol.
The main problem I see here is that my sibling is older now not to get affected of my dad nor mom's reprimands, and my parent's would see this matter as him focusing at school, cuz you know, he's expected to perform very well at school. "he's doing his best at school, let him be" then what about me? haha
tang1na!