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@woody8722

Scenario 1: she is genuine and really doesnt want to leave Kenya for the UK, which is ...very rare.   Plenty would take the opporutniy to leave the country right now

Scenario 2: reverse psychology, meaning she knows you wont leave the UK and is going to milk the relationship for as long as it's necessary

Your choice on which one seems likely.. good luck

She knows i want to live in Kenya and says she wants a family with me.

The 'red flags' for me are that you are paying her accommodation and have set her up with a shop.  She will say the right things to you because her lifestyle now depends upon your funding it.  Just be mindful about what she may be up to in your absence!

I would say that typically a Kenyan woman would want to travel and the UK is often a favoured destination.

As for living in Kenya, unless you can get another work permit, its not that easy.

What do you consider genuine? I think this is the important question. Do you mean if you stopped underwriting her life would she leave you? ... yea probably mate! If she is hot and has other suiters and fans than she already has other "sponsors" I have lived in Thailand and Philippines. It's common for punters to be bamboozled into thinking they have an "exclusive" girlfriend whilst away from the home country. Obviously you are new at the game. Genuine? what exactly is that anyway?

From a jaded world traveler that has done a bit of research over the years.

While dating her in Kenya, did you get to meet any of her close friends or relatives?  Let's be honest here, I am a woman and I know that most women out there want to drag a guy and tell him all the right things as long as she is getting money from the guy. Woe unto you of you are the "falling in love" or empathetic guy coz she will milk you dry. My advise, try and stop ravishing her with money and paying her rent since you have already set her a business. Lie to her that things aren't going well for you in that UK hence you are unable to support her as much. Use that psychology on her to test her if she is in for the money. I am sure you will get your answer by the kind of energy she gives back to you, by how she communicates and relates with you now that you ain't ravishing her with the money.... That's my two cents. All the best

@GuestPoster27887

I just came back to Kenya to surprise my model beautiful kenyan girlfriend from Nanyuki. I met in March and lived with for 2 months.   I texted hi on a Saturday night about 7 pm.  She said send my money for some wine, said I could do better than that I could bring it to her.  I thought she would be happy that I had arrived.  It wasn't a complete surprise I told her a week prior I was coming just didnt give details.  She was upset didn't want me to come to her apartment, I didn't know where her new apartment was.  The next day Sunday I asked if we could get lunch she said sure, she said she would come over. I said I wanted to pick her up at her apartment, she got cold suddenly and told me she had to go shopping.  This was the woman who was supposed to be my future wife.  For sure she has another man.  She then told me she needed a fridge and TV so I should send her money to get these things, or else she didn't want to see me. I then told her Wednesday I brought her nice gifts and I phone ect.  She said she could come over after work to see me, yes get the gifts and then go home to her other man. for sure. I just told her I didn't want to talk with her again.  So many girls to date here no need for a gold digger

@jiguina

This is what I thought all along. Sorry that you had to find out that way. As a woman, I know that so many women are in relationships for convenience purposes and not coz they love their partner. Take away the money and the "love" is gone. It's such a materialistic world out there. From a woman's perspective, I feel like maybe next time you get a woman you could pretend you don't have as much and am sure you'll find one who loves you for you.

How Is Your Relationship Going Now?

@Patriciahk

Hello, please note that the OP is no longer on the website.

regards

Bhavna

@jiguina

Sorry for that

@GuestPoster27887

It's possible she's genuine, but the best way to know if she's genuine is to tell her you have some issues and cannot keep up with her bills.

Most Kenyan ladies prefer their foreign lovers to Kenya because it is easy for them to plan with the immigration and court to send you back home with nothing after she must have convinced you to make investments in the country.

I lived in Kenya for 4 years and saw even Americans who entered the country loaded and later deported with nothing. This is not to conclude that your girlfriend is a fraud!

Tell her you're broke and you can't keep up with bills in your country; you think life is cheaper in Kenya, so you'd like to come down, meet her, and start all over Kenya with her.

Remember to thank me later.

@jiguina

There you go!

@GuestPoster27887

They all want that, beware!

@jiguina

dude, she doesn't have that apartment anymore probably and you have been paying it every month...nice pocket money for her!

@GuestPoster27887

In a kenyan setting,the man is usually considered the provider,married or not...so technically,you are being the man.You can never really be certain if a babe likes you or not,regardless of geographical setting...If she doesnt want to go to the UK,at least you can be certain that she is not in it for the visa at the very least which is usually a major concern for experts.Just treat her right,and she will be doing the same for you.So long as there is respect and love within your relationship,treat it like you would any relationship-remove doubt and suspicion.Those 2 are the surest bet to creating an unhealthy union.

@GuestPoster27887

She sounds genuine, but you say you set her up with a shop so why can't she manage without your help?

I'm English and lived here over 5 years, I love it hear, took me 3 years to find a genuine girl. Now life with her is great.

Wish you all the best.