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Nim0 wrote:

I am in an interracial relationhsip and I think its the sweetest taboo! ...What's your personal experience on DO's and NO-NO's? or better still, "What's YOUR sweetest taboo?"

Whatever gives you the impression that mixing the races is taboo?

This is the 21st Century, if you hadn't realized....

Hello Nimo,

I would guess that inter-racial / inter-cultural / inter-generational relationsips are not necessarily taboos depending on where one lives.

I was born and raised in Canada, Ontario is a rather conservative province and even there inter-racial relationships have become much more common since Canada is a truly multi-cultural country now.

I have been living in Brazil for over ten years now. Here inter-racial / inter-cultural and even intergenerational relationships are almost the norm. I speak from personal experience. I am a 63 year old, white, Anglo-saxon, Protestant, male (WASP) and I am married to a wonderful Afro-Brazilian woman who will be 27 years old in October. Yes, that's right - 37 years my junior. We have a beautiful and extremely happy 5 year old son.

Here in Brazil our relationship doesn't even raise eyebrows. People think nothing of the color, cultural or age difference here. The worst thing that I can even say has happened here was when out in the park with my son and some unthinking individual asks him if he's enjoying being with Grandpa. They almost shrink in horror when he immediately corrects them and says, "he's my daddy!" Not because of my age, but because of their own error.

Nothing taboo here........... and I'm loving every minute of it.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

I was christian, he was muslim. Been married 17 months. family was not happy as i went on a holiday and came back married. brother has not talked to me in over a year sincce i started wearing hijab. He has the problem, and told family to butt out.

Family dont like him/her then tough. Its your life not thiers.

wjwoodward wrote:

Hello Nimo,

I would guess that inter-racial / inter-cultural / inter-generational relationsips are not necessarily taboos depending on where one lives.

I was born and raised in Canada, Ontario is a rather conservative province and even there inter-racial relationships have become much more common since Canada is a truly multi-cultural country now.

I have been living in Brazil for over ten years now. Here inter-racial / inter-cultural and even intergenerational relationships are almost the norm. I speak from personal experience. I am a 63 year old, white, Anglo-saxon, Protestant, male (WASP) and I am married to a wonderful Afro-Brazilian woman who will be 27 years old in October. Yes, that's right - 37 years my junior. We have a beautiful and extremely happy 5 year old son.

Here in Brazil our relationship doesn't even raise eyebrows. People think nothing of the color, cultural or age difference here. The worst thing that I can even say has happened here was when out in the park with my son and some unthinking individual asks him if he's enjoying being with Grandpa. They almost shrink in horror when he immediately corrects them and says, "he's my daddy!" Not because of my age, but because of their own error.

Nothing taboo here........... and I'm loving every minute of it.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

Sir ,

Been in this situation..but doesnt work at all
However interacial relationship is a beautiful thing but not for Arabs perception,,their strong culture and family,dont know how to break this Ice ?

From a woman's point of view, nothing is stranger than a man.  His race isn't going to change that.

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

From a woman's point of view, nothing is stranger than a man.  His race isn't going to change that.

cute!

Respect is very important for the both of you to understand each other. Respecting ones culture and tradition would mean that you accept your partner of who and what he was. That's what love can do.

I agree with nimo, its the sweetest taboo in kenya. When u walk on the streets or malls people look at you longer than a normal black or white couple. But I love it, interracial relationship made me more aware of other parts of the world cultures and ideas outside the way my country thinks.

Am happy

why tabooo??

HELL NO!!! i better choice my bf comes from diffrent country than same local like me!!! many advantage we can get, both new culture and language..and bonus if end up we have mixed baby, lol

Interesting topic!

I am Franco-Indian and Christian, my ex is Italian and she is older than me by four years. A lot of heads turned here in India when we walked in a crowd, in a mall or a public place.

Knowing the culture of your partner and speaking a common language, if not a few, always seems to help.

Just go for it girl!
true love does not care about race, different cultures or other believes.

BUT:::::: you asking this question, is setting your selves apart with in a negative way.

Embrace life unconditionally!
If you have nay doubts, just go one door further.

People who are proud of their relationships solely because they are one race and their partner is another are annoying. It's not a badge of honour, it's like you're walking around with a sign on your head saying "Look how not racist I am!"

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HaileyinHongKong wrote:

From a woman's point of view, nothing is stranger than a man.  His race isn't going to change that.

"What a strange thing man is; and what a stranger thing woman." Lord Byron

The human genome sequence has been cracked, anybody out there who can lay a claim to cracking the female psyche? Thought so, nada, zilch.

Taboo? it may depend on where you're coming from (both of you or either one of you). I am black and have been dating a white girl for about a year now... am about to propose:) we both are open ... everything is openly discussed which makes the relationship exciting! it is a challenge at times especially because of background, the things you both used to etc.... but you have to be open to new things.

princess sandra wrote:

why tabooo??

HELL NO!!! i better choice my bf comes from diffrent country than same local like me!!! many advantage we can get, both new culture and language..and bonus if end up we have mixed baby, lol

Just don't mention that baby part on a first date.

VidoDido wrote:

"What a strange thing man is; and what a stranger thing woman." Lord Byron

Byron was a very strange thing.

lhoward92 wrote:

People who are proud of their relationships solely because they are one race and their partner is another are annoying. It's not a badge of honour, it's like you're walking around with a sign on your head saying "Look how not racist I am!"

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Whoa...... what a totally off the wall statement that was. I don't know of anyone who would FLAUNT a mixed relationship or mixed marriage just to make a point that they aren't racist.

Do you think that they should hide in a closet somewhere? Would that make you feel more comfortable?

(note: 20 yr. old British girl still wet behind the ears and with big chip on shoulder, who has problems with other races in UK no doubt)

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

When two souls are attracted to each other there is no consideration of race. Each soul understands the beauty of the other.

Love is about heart, not interracial.

Some of the most attractive NON-taboo places for mixed-race marriages are in the Caribbean islands. Check this Web-post for notes on how we live in the Cayman Islands:
expatfocus.com/c/aid=448/columnists/gordon-barlow/caymans-expats---57-varieties-and-counting/
and this one for comments on mixed-marriages in general, since the term "mixed marriages" doesn't always mean mixed-race.
expatfocus.com/c/aid=664/columnists/gordon-barlow/mixed-marriages-in-the-cayman-islands/

princess sandra wrote:

    why tabooo??

    HELL NO!!! i better choice my bf comes from diffrent country than same local like me!!! many advantage we can get, both new culture and language..and bonus if end up we have mixed baby, lol

Just don't mention that baby part on a first date.



hahahaha................agreed sweety

My husband is from pakistan , me from uk. We dont have a problem about our relationship or marrage. My younger brother has a problem about it, sister is 'so so'.
IF the family or other people dont like it then tough.

'I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being--neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there's no question of integration or intermarriage. It's just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.” malcom x
I would love to meet a wonderful, Human being(establish a long, loving, caring Long relationship =Mixed babies @Princess Sandra

wjwoodward wrote:

lhoward92 wrote:

People who are proud of their relationships solely because they are one race and their partner is another are annoying. It's not a badge of honour, it's like you're walking around with a sign on your head saying "Look how not racist I am!"

[Moderated: Inappropriate comment]

Whoa...... what a totally off the wall statement that was. I don't know of anyone who would FLAUNT a mixed relationship or mixed marriage just to make a point that they aren't racist.

Do you think that they should hide in a closet somewhere? Would that make you feel more comfortable?

(note: 20 yr. old British girl still wet behind the ears and with big chip on shoulder, who has problems with other races in UK no doubt)

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

Thanks for going ahead and assuming I'm ignorant because I'm young. Very mature.

To give a little context, that was in reference to (predominantly females) claiming how 'exciting' it is - the stares, the difference in cultures and family opinions. I am white and have been with my mixed race boyfriend for 3 years. It has never been an issue.

Conversations like this; making it an issue, is what's incorrect. I appreciate I'm lucky enough to be from a cosmopolitan place, that it's different for people in less open-minded societies but I know plenty of people who will pick their partner based on what race they are, to 'break the mould' of standard relationship dynamics in their culture but that's a terrible way to begin a relationship and extraordinarily shallow.

You completely misinterpreted what I said and jumped to a conclusion - much like the people who attack those in interracial relationships. Thanks for proving a point, sir.

(note: 20 yr. old British girl who dislikes the city she lives in due to lack of cultural diversity)

I wonder if you'd make those assumptions about me if I was a pakistani-British person, which is the main demographic in the neighbourhood I grew up in. Seems we're all a little racist eh? Even if we don't like to think so.

Hello lhoward92,

Sorry, it was not my intention to offend you. I will say however that I did not JUMP to a conclusion, I was gently pushed in the direction of that conclusion by the convoluted way in which you made your statement. It appeared that you were stating that the only reason people become involved in mixed relationships in the first place is to prove they aren't racist and have some inner need to prove that to the world at large.

I must confess that I did make one, horrible generalization, in forming my opinion about your statement. Since I had absolutely no idea whatsoever of your personal situation I jumped to the conclusion that (from the complaints I hear all the time from many UK citizens) you were having problems in accepting the multi-cultural world we now live in. I stand corrected, apologize for my error and can now see your situation in a much different light. I was rather blunt in my response because I have absolutely no room in my life for intolerance and no use for intolerant and racist people. Which I now see you are not.

If you go back and re-read your initial posting I'm sure you will agree with me that it was a little vague and incomplete and thus opened the door for my misunderstanding. Once again, very sorry about that. I do, however, stand by the statement I made that I don't know of anyone who would flaunt a mixed relationship simply to prove they aren't racist. What would be the point? I think there's a world of difference in saying that they find the situation a bit exciting, breaking some barriers - than saying that they're making some kind of personal statement. If you re-examine some of the statements that were made here I'm sure you'll see that's the case.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

may be i can say that i am a "product" of interracial relationship..
my father is Peruvian and my mum is Javanese,she is from Solo..

and it didn't surprise me so much when i knew that my father is also the product of it, because my (late)grand father was Peruvian and my (late)grand mother was Chinese-Makasar(south sulawesi)

so,what should i say about that?


-b-

wjwoodward wrote:

I must confess that I did make one, horrible generalization, in forming my opinion about your statement.

This happens a lot online.

bethorizer wrote:

Love is about heart, not interracial.

I agree with u...bethoriter. mmm, this is ur name or just a nick ?

To the point of sounding shallow, I would actually go out with girls from other races just to see my compatibility with them, my cultural assumptions against theirs. In the end, if we both like each other, we would use the cultural differences to our advantage than feel awkward or proud about the whole race issue.
That's my take!

princess sandra wrote:

why tabooo??
HELL NO!

bethorizer wrote:

Love is about heart, not interracial.

As lust is in the eyes.
Before I got married and became seriously boring, many of my girlfriends were from other countries and cultures.
I started by collecting continents, then religions, skin colour and finally, countries.

4 continents and beds in two of those continents(one incontinent - but beer can do that), all the major religions and a few minor ones, a rainbow of ladies and a good few countries, mainly European but a few Asian ones.
Of course, I'm married and boring now, so I only collect stamps.

mas fred wrote:

Of course, I'm married and boring now, so I only collect stamps.

Chezzz.. live on the edge.
Reclaim your life
See how many times you can get away with it.
but dont blame me for chopped saussages

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

From a woman's point of view, nothing is stranger than a man.  His race isn't going to change that.

After that comment I am now officially out of love with you!

I do not see the big deal about Interracial relationships.

It is up the the people involved. They will have to deal with the cultural and family differences.

I feel some music coming on...

If I tell you If I tell you now Will you keep on Will you keep on lovin' me? If I tell you If I tell you how I feel Will you keep bringin' out the best in me?

You give me, you give me the sweetest taboo You give me, you're giving me the sweetest taboo Too good for me

There's a quiet storm And it never felt like this before There's a quiet storm that is you There's a quiet storm And it never felt this hot before Giving me something that's taboo (Sometimes I think you're just too good for me)

You give me the sweetest taboo That's why I'm in love with you (With you) You give me the sweetest taboo

SADE - THE SWEETEST TABOO

when I started this topic,  I had that you song in mind (sweetest taboo by Sade). coming from Africa where some  tribes still struggle to nurture and protect their  language /traditions /culture through "in-breeding" , I suppose breaking away from the pack is a sweet taboo for me...I have more often than not  dated guys outside   the 'norm' &   in some cases from a 'warring' tribe......yap ! forbidden fruit is definitely so much sweeter. trop bon!

Sade annoys me.  "Coast to coast/LA to Chicago".  Which coast is Chicago on?

Now that you replied to my post I have a better idea of what you are saying.

There is something tantalizing about going against the cultural norm.

Here in Belize interracial relationships are the norm, even encouraged. So it is not such a big deal

I wish you luck in finding what you want.

Nim0 wrote:

when I started this topic,  I had that you song in mind (sweetest taboo by Sade). coming from Africa where some  tribes still struggle to nurture and protect their  language /traditions /culture through "in-breeding" , I suppose breaking away from the pack is a sweet taboo for me...I have more often than not  dated guys outside   the 'norm' &   in some cases from a 'warring' tribe......yap ! forbidden fruit is definitely so much sweeter. trop bon!