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Hello, I apologize if I鈥檓 rude by not answering your questions. But , I do have some insight on this issue.
Interracial relationships, are not an issue. But there is an issue with uneducated persons in relationships with Dominican women/ men.
The Dominican man is taught that, he is more manly if he has kids with other women while being married. The woman is not respected, and has to except his bullshit. Then they wonder , why they are suffering so much financially, etc....
The majority are uneducated, and the woman feel they have to accept this behavior, which isn鈥檛 true. They mostly marry within there race which is a bad idea. Sorry if I made anybody feel bad, but I am an American with Dominican heritage. I know what I鈥檓 talking about. I am also an American veteran with 16 years leading soldiers and been to Afghanistan & I raw wars 5 times.
Sorry but my people are uneducated or prefer there egos over all

Jay thank you for your perspective.聽 While this is blunt it is also true. From my perspective as a strong independent woman, I see examples of this every single day.

Sad, but true, It pervades all the economic, social strata.聽 It is not just relegated to the poor & uneducated. It affects the children the most having single parent homes & thusly insuring generational continuance of this behavior.聽 Acceptance of birth control would lessen the number of children but it would never change the inherent problem.聽 Education may help stem the flow. The vast majority of girls are pregnant in their early to mid teens.聽 聽I have no solution.

Jay, nonsense. That a guy might have 8 kids with 6 different girls, does NOT necessarily mean he doesn't respect any of them. That's just your false assumption. It's their culture, maybe just different than yours.聽 They dont think there's anything wrong with it.聽 Arrogant for gringos to say there is.

Colonel he is not a gringo, he is of dominican聽 heritage and has more right to call it as he sees it than anyone.聽 He understands this culture from both sides.聽

It is an assumption that a man with聽 6 or 7 or 8 women doesn't respect any of these women, yes.聽 That is his assumption. I personally would have a hard time arguing with that but we can all agree no one knows for sure!

If he supports them all, sees them often and gives them attention & love, THEN, i would say he respects them.聽 It is a biological imperative to procreate as many children as possible. That is what makes men horny well into advanced years. But, & it is a huge but, that it is no longer necessary for the continuance of the human race.聽 Society in general condemns this behavior because it plays havoc with the well being of the family structure.聽 It takes away much of the potential future of such kids, boys & girls. Combine that with a piss poor educational system and you end up with what you see all about you. Some great & beautiful people trapped in a swamp NOT, of their own making.聽 The Tuba has once again farted up wind. ........

Okay lets leave this alone please.

Yes. i agree

I鈥檓 with you on this one.馃槉

I too see no advantage to聽 continue to no avail.聽 Thanks Planner.

馃槒

You know that I found out that the man can accuse the woman of cheating and get her kicked out of the house and take the children馃槼 I was mortified by this. Woman in DR have no standing and because I was there looking for housing without a husband I kept being asked where is my husband? Also , They kept saying, You alone? I don鈥檛 believe you. Then of course offered to care for me 馃��. Im gonna stop here............馃か

Men too often get that response.聽 What no wife? I have a ...... .. for you.

Sounds like heaven for a single man that just wants that one girl.

I have to respond to that.聽 Imagine being a single father of two young children here.聽 My wife must have died,聽 be in jai, or be an extremely bad mother for me to have custody of the children. Joint custody is a foreign concept to women here. The women think it must be killing me to cook,聽 clean, and care for myself and my kids. My girlfriend wants to move in so she can take care of me. I do feel that having the men and women see a man raise his children,聽 go grocery shopping alone with the kids,聽 and playing outside with his children,聽 will change some of the cultural views. My girlfriend nearly fainted when she saw me playing catch with my daughter. She said the baseball might kill her. My response was, she catches and throws better than her brother.聽 I don't complain about the cultural differences.聽 I try to set a good example.

I too see this.聽 What you are alone? Well who does things for you? What if you get sick?聽 And of course it's not good for anyone to live alone!!!

Yup, I am quite happy living alone! That doesn't,聽 of course, preclude other arrangements!聽

Yesss 馃槀馃槀 Im like no thank you I don鈥檛 know you sir. Gracias 馃槉

馃槈

Ya!
You see I'm that guy.
Coming from a matriach type family. Mom was a Dynamic woman as well as Sissy and Lisa. Life was easy for me and simple. I worked I made the money brought it home and laid on the table.
Sadly three years ago Lisa, Sissy, and Momma all got cancer. All died within a year of each other. Left me devistated. I didn't know how to run a home much less even pay a bill. At 7 years old I would set crab traps every Saturday and Sunday bring home my catch mom would pick out what she wanted for the family and I'd sell the rest to the neighbors. The money went on the table. Mom always peeled off a couple dollars for me so I could take my little brother and two sisters to the movies and each of us get a popcorn and soda. Working all those years my back got twisted out for that last time effecting my sciatic nerve now and I filed for disability. I got approved in 8 months without a lawyer. I since lost that house we all lived in 18 years Pryor. That lump sum payment bought me a live aboard sailboat. I've invested the rest in jewelry and beach fashion. I get it reasonable enough I've got my LLC and I've set up "Precious Hearts Global" it's my foundation and for every sale I make a cancer patient gets equal value. That all started when I came across a girl on Facebook that lost all her hair and felt ugly. So I sent her a gold Emerald and diamonds pendant and earrings set and told her to put them in and post a photo. Her smile was worth a million bucks. I know what it's like to be without hope. That was right before my girls got cancer. I'm less than halfway to having enough inventory. I think a Cabana on the beach in DR will work as well as any place.

Leeadams,
This is definitely the place for a single man who wants one woman. The typical woman here will take care of your household for you. Find the right on and treat her well, and you will more than likely have a good relationship. I will however say,聽 beware of the women who are only after your money.聽 There are many of those here also.
You may not consider your income a lot of money, but to people here,聽 you might as well be wealthy. You will pay for everything in a relationship here. The key is to find someone who is not looking for you to change her life drastically. You want someone who will save for your and her future.

Thank you Julian Torrez
Ya the culture there seems to be old world and so hard to find in America anymore.

Thank you Julian Torrez
Ya the culture there seems to be old world and so hard to find in America anymore.

Maybe HE disrespects women, but he cant say anybody else does.聽 Maybe he is dominican, but an apparently one that is 'engringado'.

Thecolonel, I wasn't going to respond to what Jay posted about Doninican culture,聽 but Planner I feel compelled.聽 I'm Dominican and an ex Air Force officer.聽 Don't know the significance of my military service in this, or combat history,聽 but just following Jay's narrative. I was raised in a predominantly Dominican neighborhoods in New York City and Newark, New Jersey, before moving to Alabama as a teen. The majority of the Dominican men i grew up around respected their wives,聽 girlfriends,聽 mistresses,聽 or whomever they were in a relationship with. The young men were just like any young man in any culture. Sex is the primary thing on their minds.聽 Unwed pregnancy and motherhood happens around the globe. We moved from the innercity to rural Alabama. Teen pregnancy was rampant there, even though we were in the bible belt,聽 as they call it.
I see that the Dominican Republic is about 40 years behind the United states on social issues.聽 Especially those concerning women, and the minority Haitians.聽 Women's liberation in the United states happened in the 60s,聽 as did the civil rights movement. It will eventually happen here. Poverty is still prevalent in the United states,聽 as is high rates of teen pregnancy. Unwed pregnancy is much higher in the Dominican Republic because abortion is illegal and the church frowns on the use of birth control. A survey conducted by the CDC stated 99.1% of sexually active American women 15 to 44 use, or have used birth control. Are there many things about my home and culture that needs to be changed,聽 definitely yes.聽 But I will never paint everyone here with a broad brush.聽 I would say the majority of Dominican men respect the women. But people tend to focus on the negative. And finally,聽 ego is when a person thinks to speak for everyone in his culture, simply because he is an individual in said culture. In terms of education in countries. The Dominican Republic has a 92% literacy rate,聽 and the women are a percentage higher than the men. It doesn't compare to the United states,聽 but definitely not as bad as you insinuated. I'm not commenting again about this.聽 I would simply say this. I didn't like people painting me with a broad brush in the United states,聽 because of my skin color. I refuse to do it to anyone else. If you don't like the culture or the people here,聽 you can simply leave.聽 Most of the Dominican people can't,聽 simply leave.

Julian, you being a well spoken, intelligent man, often throws those less endowed into a tizzy. They tend to respond with vitriol rather than with insight & recognition of another's experience.聽 聽Bigotry is often the result of the inability of one to see & accept the commonality of people. They can only see the differences.

I will chime in.

From a woman's perspective,聽 a man who cheats on me does not respect me or the other woman. PERIOD.聽 I dont care about cultural norms.聽 So that is where I am coming from.

Unwed pregnancies,聽 girls age 11 to 15 being pregnant - do NOT need to happen and need to be stopped. For me that is about聽 education and options! I personally work to help fix this!

Literacy rates have come a long way here in the last聽 3 or 4 years. However literacy is not education. It is just one piece of education. The education here is still sorely lacking. Again we have come a long way in the last few years but we have a long way to go.聽

I also want to comment that it is awesome when we can have a conversation like this without name calling, finger pointing etc. Its about all of us being able to voice our opinions with respect!聽 聽As long as that continues I am good with this!聽 Thank you all for playing nice.聽

For the record, I have zero military聽 experience or training.聽 Just saying.....聽

You have my solemn oath that i will never be disrespectful to anyone in my posts. Even when I totally disagree with them.

I see that and I love it. Thank you!聽 I do my very best to be respectful at all times too even when I disagree or think someone is off their rocker.....LOL

Planner, as you well know that I can at times be off the wall. I agree with you in the cheaters having no respect for anyone, including them selves. I have never flinched from denouncing the infidels before, So it is with great sacrifice that I am constraining myself from lambasting those whom I feel deserve a cat-o-nine tails flailing their butts.聽 One thing that has helped me, is your gentle reminders to behave.聽 The problems that persist here are indeed slowly improving. With the help of like minded people there is hope for a better future. Thanks to people like you & Julian who do not suffer from "Buttosis".聽 thank you.聽 Damn, I almost said something about ass holes .................sorry

Hahahahaha tinker you are always entertaining!

After reading all these posts all I can do is ask :: Where do I get one of these women!!?

Welcome to the forums! So which kind of women are you referring to?

Whatever type you are looking for. They will find you. If you want a good, honest & decent one, have patience & a sense of humor.聽 The full spectrum of womanhood exists here. Answer Planners question, we are curious.

I am married to a Dominican man I had been with for 4 years before getting married. I have already caught him lying twice about being with a woman (within a 3 week span), so I wonder what had happened that I didn鈥檛 catch. Three strikes and he is out, even tho I completely love him. Soooo many people have told me BAD things recently about how Dominican men cheat....

What a FASCINATING thread -- i just discovered it.聽

Hopefully, i won't need any of the advice or cautions, as I'm still happily married to my first and only.聽

But, in terms of geting a read on DR life for our (hoped-for) friends in the DR, this is a massive education.聽 There are so many land mines in relationships, potential pitfalls and hidden traps.

My advice to all is:聽 Be cautious, but never give up.聽 Finding that one-in-a-million diamond is hard...sometimes you have to DIG DEEP to find the one that sparkles for YOU!

BE CAUTIOUS.聽 HEED WARNING SIGNS.聽 But, don't ever give up trying.

An older thread has been resurrected.

Superbadgrl聽 - unfortunately this does happen.聽 It's all about what you do now!聽

Cruffman - having your post cleaned up. Some of your comments do cross the line.聽 Please don't generalize like that.聽 聽Your entire story however, very on point.聽 I have seen many similar examples

I like your comments planner , I am glad I am not cut out to cheat on my wife as it will be shown in my forehead like I neon sign saying " cheater " , what has worked for me is be best friends that has been the key for me , my wife is European and I am not although thru descendant I am, but I am born and raised stateside. I can not really function with another woman , but is part of my own conscience . Life is too short , could become complicated at times and there is no need to seek additional complications. God Bless you all , Krumite

I am married to a dominican man, We have 1 child and have been together for almost 5 years. He is definitely my perfect match, he is such a provider and giver. He literally gives me all the attention he can, and provides me with whatever I ask for. I read some of the posts from 2018 and I didnt like to see that so many men had great things to say about dominican women. But when a woman complimented her dominican man, everyone was like "be careful, watchout"! lol The truth is when you are a foreigner marrying someone from a third world country you are always facing a risk. They might want to use you for financial benefit. And I guess men are used to that aspect in any country but enjoy it more with a dominican woman because they seem to be more appreciative of it. However, I didnt find any of those relationship stories exhibiting what I thought is love. Just an even exchange of money or lifestyle changes for a person that cooks and cleans for you, or someone to make you feel good. Unfortunately, I have seen it time and time again. A real Dominican man's nature is to provide for his woman and children and make sure they safe. I love that we eat lunch everyday at 12 or 1pm no matter how busy he gets. and every Sunday he spends the day with his family. Those are just aspects of my husband that come from cultural conditioning. Dominican women on the other hand like to be provided for, they will cook clean and wash everything but you will have to buy their panties and their platano or they will leave you for the next guy who can.