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@Siobhan222 exercise extreme caution and don't use dating sites. Is best to have trusted people present good options to you. If you're female and they ask you for money, run away. If you're male and they ask you for money in short order, run away. If they say they love you in short order, run away and do it quickly. If they talk about sex in short order, run away.
-@rlwoodz

How realistic is this? Last I checked 20% of current committed relationships began online AND Online dating is the most popular way couples meet.

Online meeting/dating is the present and future of dating and people just have to be careful and keep their eyes wide open and not ignore red flags.

That may be true in developed nations it is less so here! 

Calling women females but calling men, men is gross.

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@smallgees

Keep believing that your man is faithful...lol!

I have been with my Dominican husband forb27ys. We were17 and 19 when we met, both young, in shape and in love...guess what???  It didn't matter, he still cheated and I now 43yrs old amd just finding out who he really is.

Welcome to the forums.  I am sorry to hear of your experience. Reality is, cheating happens everywhere and is committed by both men and women.  We all have to be aware at all times. Trust and respect are earned and then  must be maintained.

Men usually cheat in Latin countries as it is accepted by other men and many women, for various reasons.

Like corruption, lying, and not being punctual, cheating on your spouse may be viewed negatively by those who have different beliefs and were raised to honor their word in other countries.

So coming here, one must understand there are cultural differences which should be acceptable before diving

into a lifelong commitment.

If these are not agreeable then don't fool yourself into believing the person is exceptional and will change for you, bc you will probably be disappointed.

Your beliefs and customs are ingrained from childhood, in your community w your peers. You can modify and adjust your mindset to please someone, but for how long? It depends on the person and circumstances. If they don't always meet your expectations, are they to blame?

BTW, not taking sides, just saying...

Well said.

@JulianTorrez

does she have a sister? hook a brother up, JT

You will have zero issues here.

Relationships are that anywhere. Humans will alway be that.

@sofialovestravel

Huh? Confusing!

@Priscilla

Can spend nice time in 2 diferentes country xmas etc

We are Poland Dominican republic pair

You can date Dominicans, and you can even marry them without any problems.  As others have said, there have been very good, successful, loving marriages between Dominicans and foreigners.  But, just as with any country, nationality, and gender, there are the good ones, and there are the bad ones.  You just need to go into from Day 1 knowing a few things: 

1. many Dominicans are very good actors.  They can be the best, sweetest, most lovable, perfect person you've ever known, but it's all for their own hidden agenda.  Take it all with a grain of salt and understand it could all just be for show.  If they're scamming you, eventually, the red flags will start popping up.  If they truly are a good person, the perfect mate for you, you'll eventually see it.  Take it one date at a time, trust your instincts, don't be taken in by all the sweet talk.  Tread carefully. 

2.  many Dominicans marry for money.  If you don't want to go broke, keep a tight control on the purse strings from Day 1.  Don't spend extravagantly (throw money around) starting with the first date, then expect him/her to accept less later on.  Set the pace/limits from the beginning and build up to "extravagant" once you're more sure and comfortable with what he/she is truly after.  Start yourself out as "the poor foreigner" who is barely getting by.  If they can accept you that way, continue on... cautiously. 

3.  many Dominicans marry to leave the country.  If you plan to marry and take him/her back to your home country, regardless of how much love you feel there is between you, regardless of how much time you spent in the DR building your relationship, reserve just ONE TINY part of your brain for the thought that he/she might ditch you once they have citizenship.  Don't think that he/she won't leave you because they'll feel dependent on you in your home country.  There are many immigrant support functions in our home countries.  They don't need you.  You can hope and have faith that it will never happen, but you need to go into knowing it might ³ó²¹±è±è±ð²Ô.Ìý

4.  if you're planning on getting serious with him/her, make sure you cover yourself legally on all fronts.  Not just with a prenuptial but also regarding his/her family.  If he/she has a child from a previous relationship, get a parental agreement in place specifiying what his/her responsbilities are to the child(ren), and specifying that YOU are not responsible (until such a time that you adopt and take responsibility).  Financial support but also supervisory responsibilities. I.E, he has a child from a previous relationship... when he has visitation and child is in our home, the child will not be left in my sole care while he goes off to work.  I don't want the kid running back to mommy saying I abused him and then I'm hauled into court to pay some fine, and my partner (the parent) can't back up my claim because he was at work.   

5.  there's this thing called Free Union here.   Talk to a lawyer about this.  I got this info from a lawyer, but since I had no interest or plan in a Free Union, I kind of blew it off.  If you're living with someone for 3 consecutive years, you are in a Free Union marriage.  It's marriage without the paperwork.  They can come after you for financial support and assets the same as if you have a marriage certificate (there may be some limits but I don't know what they are.)  It has to be 3 consecutive years, and I think... if you're supporting him/her financially by paying for an apartment, paying the bills, giving an allowance, etc, but you're not physically living with him/her full time, they can still claim some type of support (it's like a 'concubine' law or something.  I think.)  You need to ask a lawyer about that.  Don't assume that you are not responsible for anything simply because you don't have a piece of paper saying you're married.  There are other ways to get snagged.  If you're trying to do that, consider a prenuptial agreement.  In the US, it's called Common Law Marriage.

Excellent post!

Wow, that Free Union thing could really come back and bite you! Thanks for sharing that. I've met a few sweet talking Dominican guys but they've always shown those red flags you're talking about.