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Hi Priscilla

I think love has no boundaries . Hope u find true love!

Unfortunately its really difficult to find even a girlfriend here.

This question came up before, recently, and I avoided the topic even though there is much to say about it and the experiences Ive had. Yes, of course relationships and love are possible but that doesnt mean you should or that its a good thing. It depends.

Maybe some discussion can come out of a point i'll make, instead of just writing a too-long post as is usual. If your life, mental state, health, finances and career are at least stable, a good relationship will make it all better; if you are in various personal horrors, either new or old ones, even a good relationship will make it all much worse. The reason for either way is the same. Foreign relationships take more time, energy,  patience, attitude and money than those in your home country, items you would rightly expect to save for your own foreign life. Its extremely hard to share or split that energy and its very unlikely that the (girlfriend, boyfriend) will relieve you of enough stress and headache so that you can keep focused on the reason you came here to begin with. Here is the problem:  We drift towards love and away from work. Because we tend to judge or health and well-being on the quality of the relationships we are having, or not having, more and more time will be spent on protecting love, and less time on everything else. Pretty soon you will start to sink and that leads to anger towards that gf-bf because they are not making everything OK like you hoped, you are in fact bolstering up their life at the expense of your own. Its bad enough in your own country, and cross-cultural relationships amplify and multiply problems.

Instead of talking about specific relationships, how are you going to deal with this general premise? Dont you agree that it would begin with two extremely strong and patient people who understand this and want earnestly to work on it to the good of both? Yes? No? And I assume we are talking about real relationships, not one-night stands which anyone can have.

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@murshedblues

Welcome to the forum.

Do you have some information on the subject matter of this thread.

@cvco Brilliant . Ditto. Beautiful relationships come to us when we least expect them.

@Priscilla

If there is love then there is no question for 'How' and 'What'.

Have a blissful and beautiful soul match. Good luck 🤞

Dating in Malaysia is really easy, but there are a lot of gold diggers in my opinion.

    Dating in Malaysia is really easy, but there are a lot of gold diggers in my opinion.
   

    -@wyngrove60

There are a lot, but there are also a lot of really nice ladies.

If you're inclined that way, promise the gold diggers what they want, have fun, then dump.

@Azham sp

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I think it's very easy to meet women in Malaysia and very easy to take it to the next level. You can meet them at the gym, in the bank, maids living opposite, doctors assistants, restaurants staff, property agents, in the street, in shops, in so many places. I don't think there are any dating etiquettes or rules. Opportunities with girls seem to arise almost daily. You just need to ask them out and you will always get lucky. Cultural differences don't really come into it. Unfortunately, some blokes get serious with the wrong type of girls when they really shouldn't and you can sometimes see them arguing and making scenes in the street with their girlfriends who are often tiny and often wear skimpy sexy clothes.

I'm old fashioned so I regard online dating apps as only for very desperate people. Back in the UK my best friends ex-wife joined a dating app and it turns out that there are a lot of men on those apps just looking to get their ends away with vulnerable and desperate divorced women. In Malaysia I have always felt that there is an abundance of gold diggers (obviously not all of them), and many would love to have a nice expat husband and of course in most cases a better future - travelling overseas, living in a big house, having maids, Premier subsidiary credit card, and not having to worry about their finances any more. Some girls are married to rich locals and work out at a gym, (it's called California Fitness located in Bukit Bintang) but still looking for some extra-marital fun with an expat.

So really, meeting people of the opposite sex is very easy in Malaysia, as it is in much of Asia. You just need to know which ones are gold diggers and should only for casual relationships and not to be taken too seriously, and which ones you can respect for their intelligence, honestly and good looks and are marrying material.

I think it's very easy to meet women in Malaysia and very easy to take it to the next level. You can meet them at the gym, in the bank, maids living opposite, doctors assistants, restaurants staff, property agents, in the street, in shops, in so many places. I don't think there are any dating etiquettes or rules. Opportunities with girls seem to arise almost daily. You just need to ask them out and you will always get lucky. Cultural differences don't really come into it. Unfortunately, some blokes get serious with the wrong type of girls when they really shouldn't and you can sometimes see them arguing and making scenes in the street with their girlfriends who are often tiny and often wear skimpy sexy clothes.I'm old fashioned so I regard online dating apps as only for very desperate people. Back in the UK my best friends ex-wife joined a dating app and it turns out that there are a lot of men on those apps just looking to get their ends away with vulnerable and desperate divorced women. In Malaysia I have always felt that there is an abundance of gold diggers (obviously not all of them), and many would love to have a nice expat husband and of course in most cases a better future - travelling overseas, living in a big house, having maids, Premier subsidiary credit card, and not having to worry about their finances any more. Some girls are married to rich locals and work out at a gym, (it's called California Fitness located in Bukit Bintang) but still looking for some extra-marital fun with an expat.So really, meeting people of the opposite sex is very easy in Malaysia, as it is in much of Asia. You just need to know which ones are gold diggers and should only for casual relationships and not to be taken too seriously, and which ones you can respect for their intelligence, honestly and good looks and are marrying material. - @wyngrove60

A tad harsh, but hard to argue with.

As a fat old git with little sexiness left in my body, even I could pull. However, as noted above, they were rarely serious relationship material.

As gold diggers intended to use me, I had no moral issues using them for a night.

As for the vulnerable types, a coffee and chat is as far as I ever attempted - I'm not a fan of exploiting people who don't deserve it.

Once away from tourist traps, Malaysia is full of really nice girls that, treated with the love, kindness and respect they deserve, would be amazing wives