I've been reading this website, but this is the first time I just want to post. I'm indonesian female btw.
So to answer your question. In Indonesia a muslim man can marry up to 4 wives legally. However, it is not a practice that is too common and could still be frowned upon, even among muslim.
on the legal side, if you want to married the second time, as an Indonesian, you need to provide a written consent and approval from your first wife and your bride-to-be. Even then, don't be surprise if the officer from KUA (office of Islamic religious affair/the one that gives out marriage certificate) will ask more than once if any of the party (you, first wife, bride to be) are sure about this and perhaps even ask your first wive and your bride-to-be (and her father/legal guardian) to come forward so the officer can ask them personally and make sure those written consents are not forced upon them. There will be questions about how you provide for both households, especially if your first wife is in India. How will you manage to treat both of your wives and all of your children with justice either financially, time, attention, love, etc. Please remember that even though Islam permits up to 4 wives, it's not without its consequences. "And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. (QS 4:3)"
My next question, are you coming to Indonesia just to get a second wife??? If simply marrying more than once is your goal, find your 2nd wive in your home country. Less paperwork and headache. Or find women who are less fortunate (i.e widowed-jobless- refugee with 3 or more dependents). At least people would see you as a helping guy, not a wandering d**k.
Respectfully young man, why on earth would you not respect your first wife's wishes and let her be free...She is not some sort of toy or utility you can hold onto for your life ...you either love her and look after her as your wife or have the courage to leave her altogether and start fresh with your new partner...please think of others and treat woman in a way you would like to be treated yourself...
Agreed! Thank you Sir...