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PM me immediately

Yes you can call family protection at police department

I am also not fluent in Arabic .  I know basic words but I am worried about the language barrier

Can you tell me what kind of abuse ? Or are any things clear on your body or on your kids?

It’s physical, emotional, and verbal abuse.  He has hit me and the children.  I have taken pictures of past injuries, but I have currently no visible mark. But not all assaults will leave a mark.  He has assaulted me recently by hitting my head but left no visible mark.  He also threatens me with violence.  I believe his behavior has become worse after moving to Jordan, because he feels he can do anything he wants while I am vulnerable

You don't know anyone here so he can help you with Arabic and the police

I would suspect the best course of action is a quiet trip to the nearest US embassy for emergency travel documents, then doing a runner while the 'man' is at work.
I use 'man' because any husband that hits is wife is hardly a man.

Hi,
I would take another route. Why don't you get his family involved? Also, people in this country would listen and respect religious people? Go to the nearest Church or Mosque and ask to see the head. I am sure they will help. Things can get better for the sake of the children to have both parents around. May be he is not happy at work, finance,...etc and he is not able to say it. religious leader will open it up. Think about it.

Aldermoor,
I already tried getting his family involved a long time ago but no matter how many times I try to explain to them the situation and the problems, they do nothing to help me.  In their eyes, my husband can do no wrong and he is free to do whatever he wants.  I gave up on getting his family to intervene because they simply don’t want to intervene.  Plus they will always be on his side even if he does the most terrible things. 

I don’t believe that going to see a religious leader will help much because in my experience conservative men tend to discriminate against women more and tend to side with the man more.  Plus I am an American, which gives them a another reason to be more discriminatory.   I’m also shocked that many people here in Jordan have this kind of mentality that it is permissible for a husband to verbally abuse and beat his wife.  It’s hard when women have limited rights in this patriarchal society. 

Under normal conditions, children should be with both parents.  However, when the father is extremely abusive and constantly assaults both the mother and the kids, it’s best for the mother to leave the abuser with the kids.  It’s not a healthy environment for the kids and they grow up thinking they should use violence to get what they want.  I don’t want my daughter to think it’s ok for a man to abuse her. Not only will this cause them mental problems, I simply cannot handle putting up with both the emotional and physical abuse.  If only I have their passports I would return to the U.S with the kids immediately.

I see.
Sent you PM, please go through it.

@aldermoor11

Seriously? You are making excuses for a man who hits his wife and children? There is NO excuse. That is just weakness and depravity. Hopefully she can get away and then maybe, not likely, but maybe, he can get his shit together and treat his family with love.

i  agree  no  real  man  will  beat  his  wife  and  children  ever   even  if  she  or  the  children  makes  him  mad  .  it  is   best  to  talk  long  walk  out  side  and  come  home  later       .  lawanda  miriam  din   degree  maters  in  psychology  and   sociology   from   university          my  view  on  this    issure   work  it  out   always  by  talking          lawanda    miriam    din

@aldermoor11

Honestly, does the reason matter? No matter what he feels or what he's going through he should never treat his wife and children with violence.