Well I think every where is the same, if you follow the culture and tradition so it might ask you many things to propose the woman. and that is what make the wedding become costly. to make it simple and less cost of course both hv to discuss expense by considering with life nowadays. Doesnt mean we didnt respect the culture or so, especially when we have to afford all those cost by ourself and not with parent money.
But I think we are trying to share about the procedure, as in Indonesia it is a bit complicated. We cant get legally married before doing religion marriage. And mostly religion not allowed couple with different religion to get married. While myself, I m a bit open minded by thinking that same religion not guarantee the marriage will be smooth and lasting and different religion in marriage is not big deal as long the couple has highly understanding and respect each other.
Would you share how to get legally married there? And how is the practical of poligamy there as I know Moeslem are allowed to hv 4 wives.