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A note of advice,

Internet is the last places where you'd look for kind and REAL friendship.

It's called virtual world for a reason.

salman108 wrote:

A note of advice,

Internet is the last places where you'd look for kind and REAL friendship.

It's called virtual world for a reason.

I've made some real friends through the internet and carried it into REAL life.  You just have to be discretionary, that's all

Alliecat wrote:

salman108 wrote:

A note of advice,

Internet is the last places where you'd look for kind and REAL friendship.

It's called virtual world for a reason.

I've made some real friends through the internet and carried it into REAL life.  You just have to be discretionary, that's all

I second that

Ya its true, sometimes u find such real true people through this cyber world....

I belive there are a good people using internet

I met the best and the worst people through internet. Hope you can find some good friends....Good Luck

suribhai wrote:

I met the best and the worst people through internet. Hope you can find some good friends....Good Luck

I agree with the above, there are best and worst and you just have to go through a lot of garbage to find one good friend.

You know what?  I think the key is to just take your time and observe somebody for a while.  For example, I believe that HRGuru would be a good and trustworthy friend just by observing his actions on this forum.  Same goes for TheLegendLeads.

Don't rush into anything without getting to know somebody first, and getting to know them in a way that doesn't involve *you*.

It's like I've read many times: the way to know somebody you've met in real life and go on a date with is to observe how they treat waiters, the guy who parks cars, etc.  Of COURSE they're going to be nice to their date because they have, shall we say, ulterior motives? lol  But if they're not nice to service people, you have a true indication of their character.

Alliecat ! you are a keen observer   RESPECT.

time.chime wrote:

Alliecat ! you are a keen observer   RESPECT.

Guess every one is just searching only.

HRGuru wrote:

Guess every one is just searching only.

I've found several good friends on this forum, and I think--from your weekend meetings--that you have, too!

Alliecat wrote:

salman108 wrote:

A note of advice,

Internet is the last places where you'd look for kind and REAL friendship.

It's called virtual world for a reason.

I've made some real friends through the internet and carried it into REAL life.  You just have to be discretionary, that's all

Sure you may be right, however in general for every 1 sincere friendship several fake ones can be found.

Thus our decision should be made based on rule rather than exception don't you think.

Personally I think it is very sad, that we humans as a species require machines for socializing.
What is ironic is that these machines were invented to do our work leaving us with more hours / day for our own lives.
Today the very same machines are now replacing our means of socializing.

I am a computer engineer, I spend 18 hours a day with black screen and green text.

salman108 wrote:

Thus our decision should be made based on rule rather than exception don't you think.

No, your decision should be made on what I said, above, about being discretionary and observing people.

Let me ask you, does everybody you meet in real life become a good friend?  For me, hell no!  So why would I think it would be any different online?  And the answer is, I don't.  There are plenty of fakes in real life.  Of course, they can't be faking their sex or age or hair color or whatever, but they can be faking the most important thing:  what's inside.  You find this out as you get to know them.

Alliecat wrote:

salman108 wrote:

Thus our decision should be made based on rule rather than exception don't you think.

No, your decision should be made on what I said, above, about being discretionary and observing people.

Let me ask you, does everybody you meet in real life become a good friend?  For me, hell no!  So why would I think it would be any different online?  And the answer is, I don't.  There are plenty of fakes in real life.  Of course, they can't be faking their sex or age or hair color or whatever, but they can be faking the most important thing:  what's inside.  You find this out as you get to know them.

Allie I suppose I could agree with your rationale, but then the guidelines you are talking about are generic, as are the problems we face.

I hope you are not advocating machine over human contact ?

My approach is too empirical, I'd like to live with number and probabilities and probabilities state the chance of meeting a fake is higher online than in real life.

salman108 wrote:

Alliecat wrote:

salman108 wrote:

Thus our decision should be made based on rule rather than exception don't you think.

No, your decision should be made on what I said, above, about being discretionary and observing people.

Let me ask you, does everybody you meet in real life become a good friend?  For me, hell no!  So why would I think it would be any different online?  And the answer is, I don't.  There are plenty of fakes in real life.  Of course, they can't be faking their sex or age or hair color or whatever, but they can be faking the most important thing:  what's inside.  You find this out as you get to know them.

Allie I suppose I could agree with your rationale, but then the guidelines you are talking about are generic, as are the problems we face.

I hope you are not advocating machine over human contact ?

My approach is too empirical, I'd like to live with number and probabilities and probabilities state the chance of meeting a fake is higher online than in real life.

I'm not advocating machine over human (this sounds like science fiction lol).  I'm just saying you have to use the ole noggin' (google it ) online just like you do in real life. 

People can misrepresent themselves in real life as well as online (although, admittedly it's easier to do online which is why it requires developing a kind of 6th sense).

Science is empirical; human relations are not.

I agree with Allie, you are as cautious online as you are in life and yes after being here I have made some good friends. My point about still searching is that at some point you have make that leap of faith and meet people rather than being discreet always online and still searching.

salman108 wrote:

I hope you are not advocating machine over human contact ?

Machine is something that makes our life easy by offering help. Why is it hard to accept that machines can help us in non-physical things as well, like: socializing or making new friends?

salman108 wrote:

My approach is too empirical, I'd like to live with number and probabilities and probabilities state the chance of meeting a fake is higher online than in real life.

Yes, we do agree. But who said that probability was 1 or say 100%?
See the other side of the picture as well. It's not rocket science, after all, to identify fakes and then dumping them right away. 6th sense as Allie said. I think a sense much lesser than that is what it takes

Alliecat wrote:

For example, I believe that HRGuru would be a good and trustworthy friend just by observing his actions on this forum.  Same goes for TheLegendLeads.

This discussion is getting side tracked.

I think lets just wait for the OP to find what he was looking for, and maybe the OP can come back and tell us further.

regards

salman108 wrote:

This discussion is getting side tracked.

I think lets just wait for the OP to find what he was looking for, and maybe the OP can come back and tell us further.

regards

You can wait if you want to but if anybody says anything interesting, I'm going to comment (there's no point in trying to make me shut up lol).

Besides, I think this discussion might benefit the OP, give him a few things to think about

Alliecat wrote:

You know what?  I think the key is to just take your time and observe somebody for a while.  For example, I believe that HRGuru would be a good and trustworthy friend just by observing his actions on this forum.  Same goes for TheLegendLeads.

Don't rush into anything without getting to know somebody first, and getting to know them in a way that doesn't involve *you*.

It's like I've read many times: the way to know somebody you've met in real life and go on a date with is to observe how they treat waiters, the guy who parks cars, etc.  Of COURSE they're going to be nice to their date because they have, shall we say, ulterior motives? lol  But if they're not nice to service people, you have a true indication of their character.

You're a good observer